June 27, 2014
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Joshua on Discipline
Wise words from nephew Joshua, who has some mighty nice kids. I myself found that a promised smack delivered to a derriere before I was angry was quite effective, and that if the child knows that the parent will keep the promise, the number of needed deliveries goes down dramatically. Words will be enough, and they will be heeded.
(There was a kid in 7/11 blubbering about something to his dad for an extended amount of time yesterday. The boy must have been around 7-8 years old, and father just stood there. At least take the kid outside if he is going to cause a scene and you have no clue what to do about it.)
From Joshua: As a parent, as a former child, as an observer of human nature, and as someone who has dealt closely with many children, it is my considered opinion that spanking is both completely appropriate and highly beneficial for almost all children.I started explaining that to my kids before they were even old enough to really get what I was talking about
"I spank you to teach you. I give consequences that are memorable but not injurious so that you will have learned to control yourself when you encounter situations where the consequences *are* injurious. I do this because I love you and do not want you to be hurt, or to hurt others."
Comments (1)
Amen! Josh, this insight that you so eloquently express, has passed down through our generations. Your great great grandmother dealt with tantrums etc. with the theory that it is ok for a child to cry but they should have a reason. If she did not feel that they had a reason, her duty was to give them one. Your grandmother has always theorized that all promises to children should be kept. If something good is promised, that should happen without fail as should a consequence (spanking)for bad behavior. Threats have no meaning if you don't follow through. Your kids are lucky to have such a wise parent.
Love,
Grandma
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